SHARING CAN BREAK UP PAIRING, STUDY SHOWS!


Higher risk of divorce for couples sharing housework. No threat to my marraige! lol

http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/higher-risk-divorce-couples-sharing-housework-study-article-1.1170299#ixzz27yAOxvpc

Ladies, you may want to think twice before asking your husband to help out around the house.[3]

Couples who share housework duties run a higher risk of divorce than couples where the woman does most of the chores, a Norwegian study sure to get tongues wagging showed on Thursday.[1]

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Men of the world rejoice. http://www.facebook.com/attorneybankert

Avoid a Flint Divorce by stepping away from the laundry and never, ever clean the toilet. https://twitter.com/terrybankert/status/252444387806703618/photo/1
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Couples who share housework duties run a higher risk of divorce than couples where the woman does most of the chores, a Norwegian study sure to get tongues wagging showed on Thursday.[1]

The divorce rate among couples who shared housework equally was around 50 percent higher than among those where the woman did most of the work.[1]

“The more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,” Thomas Hansen, co-author of the study entitled “Equality in the Home”, told AFP.[1]

Researchers found no, or very little, cause-and-effect. Rather, they saw in the correlation a sign of “modern” attitudes.[1]

There’s an article on The Atlantic Wire debunking this study with quotes like, “this study may mean nothing more and nothing less than that modern couples are more likely to divorce than they have been previously (this seems indisputable) and that modern couples are more likely to share chores in general.[2]

God luck with that in Flint MI. http://goodmorningflint.blogspot.com/2012/09/helping-with-housework-threatening-to.html

“Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage” as being less sacred, Hansen said, stressing it was all about values.[1]

“In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially. They can manage much easier if they divorce,” he said.
There were only some marginal aspects where researchers said there may be cause-and-effect.
“Maybe it’s sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity … where one person is not stepping on the other’s toes,” Hansen suggested.[1]

It should probably strike most women as odd that couples who work together in the home are more likely to divorce, since study after study shows that women still do most of the work in the home. So that these marriages are managing to find this kind of equality is amazing in and of itself.[2]

“There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight,” he added,
In Norway, which has long tradition of gender equality, childrearing is generally shared equally between mothers and fathers (in seven out of 10 couples), said Hansen, speaking notably from a park where he was minding his children.[1]
But when it comes to housework, women in Norway still account for most of it in seven out of 10 couples.[1]

If there is a direct link between shared duties and divorce, the only thing I can imagine is that in these marriages, the men are willing to do half of the work but can’t or won’t do it to a sufficient standard according to the woman who is holding onto the idea that she has no value unless her home is a perfect showplace. Studies show that women enjoy the control they have asboth breadwinner and homemaker, and that sometimes women spend up to 3 hoursundoing the housework their husbands have done. (That’s sad, because other research showsdoing housework makes dads happy.) Just a reminder that some of us need to let go a little bit, ladies![2]

The study also pointed out however that those women were largely satisfied with the situation, and their overall happiness was very close to those women who lived in “modern” couples.[1]

[1]
http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/higher-risk-divorce-couples-sharing-housework-study-article-1.1170299

[2]
http://blogs.babble.com/strollerderby/2012/09/29/does-sharing-housework-really-lead-to-divorce/

[3]
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/28/divorce-rates-couples-who_n_1923623.html

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